Wednesday, September 23, 2009
Life without Limbs
Sunday, June 28, 2009
A Tribute to the "King of Pop"
Thursday, December 25, 2008
The Five Reasons We Give Up
As the year comes to an end, and a new year begin. This is a good review for us before we make yet another one of those 'unachievable' resolutions. Perhaps, it is ACHIEVABLE afterall.... The power is in all of us >_<
Yes, change takes longer than we thought, and the process is harder. Acknowledging that from the get-go can make a big difference in helping us stick to the plan
by Marshall Goldsmith and Kelly Goldsmith
Most New Year's resolutions are health-related, and my expertise is in helping successful people change their relationship behavior. Yet many of the roadblocks that prevent us from getting to the gym often are the same ones that thwart us in achieving any goal.
Five of the most common reasons for giving up on our goals are listed below. Understanding these roadblocks will help you apply some preventive medicine—and increase the odds that you won't fall into the same old traps.
• Ownership
I wasn't sure that this would work in the first place. I tried it out—it didn't do that much good. As I guessed, this was kind of a waste of time!
The classic mistake made in leadership development, coaching, and self-help books is the promise that "This will make you better!" After years of experience in helping real leaders change real behavior in the real world, I have learned a hard lesson. Only you will make you better! For example, almost any type of workout scheme will provide benefit, if you do it. The ultimate driver for change has to come from inside you—not from the program, book, or coach.
Never begin a change program with the thought "This sounds like an interesting plan. I will just try it out and see if it works." If that's your thinking, it won't work.
To have a real chance of success, you have to take personal ownership and have the internal belief that "This will work if, and only if, I make it work. I am going to make this work."
• Time
I had no idea that this process would take so long. I'm not sure it's worth it.
Goal setters have a chronic tendency to underestimate the time needed to reach targets. Everything seems to take longer than we think it should. When the time elapsed in working toward our goal starts exceeding expectations, we're tempted to just give up on the goal.
In setting our goals for behavioral change, it's important to be realistic about the time we need to produce positive, lasting results. Habits that have taken years to develop won't go away in a week. Set time expectations that are 50% to 100% longer than you think you will need to see results—then add a little more!
• Difficulty
This is a lot harder than I thought it would be. It sounded so simple when we were starting out.
The optimism bias of goal setters applies to difficulty as well as time. Not only does everything take longer than we think it will, it requires more hard work. We all confuse two terms that appear to be synonymous but are actually quite different: simple and easy. We want to believe that once we understand a simple concept, it will be easy to execute a plan and achieve results.
If this were true, everyone who understood that they should eat a healthy diet and exercise regularly would be in shape. As sales of diet books have increased, Americans keep gaining weight. Our challenge for getting in shape as well as for changing leadership behavior lies not in the understanding but in the doing! Understanding is easy. Doing is tough.
In setting goals, it's important to accept the fact that real change requires real work. Making yourself feel good in the short term with statements like "This will be easy" and "This will be no problem for me" can backfire in the long term, when you realize that change isn't easy and that you will invariably face hard challenges in your journey toward improvement. Acknowledging the price for success in the beginning of the change process will help prevent the disappointment that can occur when challenges arise later.
• Distractions
I would really like to work toward my goal, but I'm facing some unique challenges right now. It might be better if I just stopped and did this at a time when things weren't so crazy.
Plan for distractions in advance. Assume that crazy is the new normal. You will probably be close to the reality that awaits!
• Maintenance
I think that I did actually try to change and get better, but I have let it slide since then. What am I supposed to do—work on this stuff the rest of my life?
Once a goal setter has put in all of the effort needed to achieve a goal, it can be tough to face the reality of what's needed to maintain the new status quo. One of the first reactions of many dieters upon reaching their weight goal is to think, "This is great! Now I can start eating again.
When one of my high-potential leaders asked his boss, the CEO, the question, "Do I have to watch what I say and do for the rest of my career?" the CEO replied, "You do if you plan on ever becoming a CEO!"
You can either set goals that increase your probability for long-term change, or set goals that may feel good in the short term but lead to disillusionment and giving up in the long term.
Have the courage to face the truth up front when setting goals. Honest, challenging plans can help you make a real difference—both in your own life and the lives of the people you know.
Saturday, December 13, 2008
some Benefits of Circumcision
But thinking about it, how did we first learn about circumcision? I learnt it from reading the bible and way before that, I don't have the slightest clue what it is all about. The first person in the history of MANkind to have circumcision is Abraham. Abraham vowed that he would teach his descendents to serve God with perfect devotion. In return, God promised to guarantee the survival of Abraham's progeny It was a 'sign of covenant' with God.
After reading this article (see below), I thought "Wow! God is all-knowing!" In those days, HIV was not even heard of!
For the benefits of all who are medically illiterate, I have also included links to Wikipedia on some medical terms below, if you want to know more! Do you think God already have his own "google" in heaven??
UNPOPULAR FOR MORE than 20 years, circumcision may come back into vogue as new research points to some irrefutable benefits.
- Protects against HIV
- Cut rates of cervical cancer
- Less prostrate cancer
- Less penile cancer
- Fewer infections
Friday, December 12, 2008
An ideal partner for life!
Check it out!
The 33-year-old has created Aiko - a 'twenty-something' robot who not only looks feminine and sexy but also does household chores and his accounts.
But despite her shiny hair and 32-23-33 figure, Aiko - whose name means love child - is no trophy partner.

Aiko, a fembot made from silicone and A.I. technology, is a genuine labour of love for Mr Trung.
He has taken out credit cards and loans, sold his car and spent his life savings on perfecting the machine - at a cost so far of £14,000.
The former software programmer, from Ontario, Canada, said he never had time to find a real wife but has not built Aiko as a sexual partner - although she is touch-sensitive and reacts if she is shown affection or is hurt.
'Like a real female she will react to being touched in certain ways. If you grab or squeeze too hard she will try to slap you. She has all senses except for smell.
'She doesn’t need holidays, food or rest and she will work almost 24-hours a day. She is the perfect woman.'
Mr Trung, who dresses Aiko in different outfits and takes her for drives in the countryside, was a child genius and made his first robot when he was eight years old.
'People have mixed reactions when they meet Aiko,' he said.
'They either love or hate her. Some people get angry and accuse me of playing God. Once someone threw a rock at Aiko. That really upset me. But many people are fascinated by her.
'Women are generally impressed and try to talk to her. But the men always want to touch her, and if they do it in the wrong way they get a slap.'
Mr Trung will spend the next few years perfecting Aiko's software and increasing her range of skills - but not just for his own amusement.
'I suffered a heart attack and I thought that one day I might need 24-hour care in the future,' he said.
'I may need to have Aiko look after me one day.'
Sunday, November 02, 2008
Dinner at Hyotan
Saturday, September 27, 2008
'Pot Bless' at Jia Xiong's 'Mansion'
We started by singing some praise songs and some 'clapping' actions (which I couldn't take pictures of because my hands were too busy hitting Jia Xiong's left hand..)
And in the kitchen, these are the ingredients for 'Ice Kacang' *yum**yum*
It was great fun with a gathering such as this. Time for fellowship and catching up. Part of the time, we were entertained by Jake, the silky terrier (unfortunately I didn't get a picture of the fella) and of course.. making fun of SH...
There were soooo much food leftover.. Which means, the next 'Pot Bless' session... we need to invite more people...
God bless!
Saturday, August 09, 2008
The Massage challenge...
Friday, June 06, 2008
When God Paints


We live in an awesome world.
Make it an awesome day.
Peace To All and May God Bless You Live simply.
Love generously.
Care deeply.
Speak kindly.
Leave the rest to God.
The Fern and the Bamboo
I wanted to quit my life.
" When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them.
I gave them light. I gave them water.
The fern quickly grew from the earth.
Its brilliant green covered the floor.
Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo.
And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo.
But I would not quit. The same in year four.
Compared to the fern, it was seemingly small and insignificant.
It had spent the five years growing roots.
Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive.
I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle. "
" Did you know, my child, that all this time you have been struggling,
you have actually been growing roots?
I would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on you. "
" Don't compare yourself to others." He said.
" The bamboo had a different purpose than the fern.
Yet they both make the forest beautiful. "
" How high should I rise ? " I asked.
" How high will the bamboo rise ? " He asked in return.
" As high as it can ? " I questioned.
" Yes." He said,
I left the forest, realizing that God will never give up on me.
And He will never give up on you too.
Never regret a day in your life.
Good days give you happiness; bad days give you experiences;
both are essential to life.

Science and God
'You're a Christian, aren't you, son?'
'Yes sir,' the student says.
'So you believe in God?'
'Absolutely.'
'Is God good?'
'Sure! God's good.'
'Is God all-powerful? Can God do anything?'
'Yes.'
'Are you good or evil?'
'The Bible says I'm evil.'
The professor grins knowingly. 'Aha! The Bible!'
He considers for a moment. 'Here's one for you. Let's say there's a sick person over here and you can cure him. You can do it. Would you help him? Would you try?'
'Yes sir, I would.'
'So you're good...!'
'I wouldn't say that.'
'But why not say that? You'd help a sick and maimed person if you could. Most of us would if we could. But God doesn't.'
The student does not answer, so the professor continues. 'He doesn't, does he? My brother was a Christian who died of cancer, eventhough he prayed to Jesus to heal him How is this Jesus good? Hmmm? Can you answer that one?'
The student remains silent.
'No, you can't, can you?' the professor says. He takes a sip of water from a glass on his desk to give the student time to relax.
'Let's start again, young fella Is God good?'
'Er...yes,' the student says.
'Is Satan good?'
The student doesn't hesitate on this one. 'No.'
'Then where does Satan come from?'
The student : 'From...God...'
'That's right. God made Satan, didn't he? Tell me, son. Is there evil in this world?'
'Yes, sir.'
'Evil's everywhere, isn't it? And God did make everything,correct?'
'Yes.'
'So who created evil?' The professor continued, 'If God created everything, then God created evil, since evil exists, and according to the principle that our works define who we are, then God is evil.'
Without allowing the student to answer, the professor continues:'Is there sickness? Immorality? Hatred? Ugliness? All these terrible things, do they exist in this world?'
The student: 'Yes.'
'So who created them?'
The student does not answer again, so the professor repeats his question. 'Who created them? There is still no answer. Suddenly the lecturer breaks away to pace in front of the classroom. The class is mesmerized.
'Tell me,' he continues onto another student. 'Do you believe in Jesus Christ, son?'
The student's voice is confident: 'Yes, professor, I do.'
The old man stops pacing. 'Science says you have five senses youuse to identify and observe the world around you. Have you ever seen Jesus?'
'No sir. I've never seen Him'
'Then tell us if you've ever heard your Jesus?'
'No, sir, I have not.'
'Have you ever actually felt your Jesus, tasted your Jesus orsmelt your Jesus? Have you ever had any sensory perception of Jesus Christ, or God for that matter?'
'No, sir, I'm afraid I haven't.'
'Yet you still believe in him?'
'Yes.'
'According to the rules of empirical, testable, demonstrable protocol, science says your God doesn't exist. What do you say to that,son?'
'Nothing,' the student replies. 'I only have my faith.'
'Yes, faith,' the professor repeats. 'And that is the problem science has with God. There is no evidence, only faith.'
The student stands quietly for a moment, before asking aquestion of his own. 'Professor, is there such thing as heat?'
'Yes,' the professor replies. 'There's heat.'
'And is there such a thing as cold?'
'Yes, son, there's cold too.'
'No sir, there isn't.'
The professor turns to face the student, obviously interested.The room suddenly becomes very quiet.
The student begins to explain.'You can have lots of heat, even more heat, super-heat,mega-heat, unlimited heat, white heat, a little heat or no heat, but wedon't have anything called 'cold'. We can hit up to 458 degrees below zero, which is no heat, but we can't go any further after that. There isno such thing as cold; otherwise we would be able to go colder than the lowest -458 degrees. Every body or object is susceptible to study whenit has or transmits energy, and heat is what makes a body or matter have or transmit energy. Absolute zero (-458 F) is the total absence of heat.You see, sir, cold is only a word we use to describe the absence of heat. We cannot measure cold. Heat we can measure in thermal units because heat is energy. Cold is not the opposite of heat, sir, just the absence of it.'
Silence across the room. A pen drops somewhere in the classroom, sounding like a hammer.
'What about darkness, professor. Is there such a thing as darkness?'
'Yes,' the professor replies without hesitation. 'What is night if it isn't darkness?'
'You're wrong again, sir. Darkness is not something; it is the absence of something. You can have low light, normal light, bright light, flashing light, but if you have no light constantly you have Nothing and it's called darkness, isn't it? That's the meaning we use todefine the word. In reality, darkness isn't. If it were, you would be able to make darkness darker, wouldn't you?'
The professor begins to smile at the student in front of him. This will be a good semester. 'So what point are you making, young man?'
'Yes, professor. My point is, your philosophical premise is flawed to start with, and so your conclusion must also be flawed.'
The professor's face cannot hide his surprise this time.'Flawed? Can you explain how?'
'You are working on the premise of duality,' the student explains. 'You argue that there is life and then there's death; a good God and a bad God. You are viewing the concept of God as something finite, something we can measure. Sir, science can't even explain a thought. It uses electricity and magnetism, but has never seen, much less fully understood either one. To view death as the opposite of life is to be ignorant of the fact that death cannot exist as a substantive thing. Death is not the opposite of life, just the absence of it.'
'Now tell me, professor. Do you teach your students that they evolved from a monkey?'
'If you are referring to the natural evolutionary process, young man, yes, of course I do'
'Have you ever observed evolution with your own eyes, sir?'
The professor begins to shake his head, still smiling, as he realizes where the argument is going. A very good semester, indeed.
'Since no one has ever observed the process of evolution at workand cannot even prove that this process is an on-going endeavor, are you not teaching your opinion, sir? Are you now not a scientist, but a preacher?'
The class is in uproar. The student remains silent until the Commotion has subsided.
'To continue the point you were making earlier to the other student, let me give you an example of what I mean.'
The student looks around the room. 'Is there anyone in the class who has ever seen the professor's brain?' The class breaks out into laughter.
'Is there anyone here who has ever heard the professor's brain, felt the professor's brain, touched or smelled the professor's brain? No one appears to have done so. So, according to the established rules of empirical, stable, demonstrable protocol, science says that you have no brain, with all due respect, sir. So if science says you have no brain, how can we trust your lectures, sir?'
Now the room is silent. The professor just stares at the student, his face unreadable. Finally, after what seems an eternity, the old man answers.
'I guess you'll have to take them on faith.'
'Now, you accept that there is faith, and, in fact, faith exists with life,' the student continues.
'Now, sir, is there such a thing as evil?'
Now uncertain, the professor responds, 'Of course, there is. We see it everyday. It is in the daily example of man's inhumanity to man. It is in the multitude of crime and violence everywhere in the world.These manifestations are nothing else but evil.'
To this the student replied, 'Evil does not exist sir, or at least it does not exist unto itself. Evil is simply the absence of God.It is just like darkness and cold, a word that man has created to describe the absence of God.God did not create evil. Evil is the result of what happens when man does not have God's love present in his heart. It's like the cold that comes when there is no heat or the darkness that comes when there is no light.'
The professor sat down.
Thursday, June 05, 2008
Adorable Baby Actor
At times, don't you wish you're a baby again? Everything that you do gets approval from everyone. Every little thing that you do, be it to laugh or to cry will be videotaped. Some stories will be told and retold during gatherings and every family events.
Sunday, May 18, 2008
A Royal Wedding
Venue: St Paul's Cathedral
Who?: Prince Charles and Lady Diana Spencer


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